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NOT DONE YET is a true-life memoir written from the danger tier -- where narcissism stops being ego and becomes a system: coercive control, reality distortion, institutional weaponization, and the slow attempt to erase a human being's mind, body, and will to live.
James G. Ventura is a CEO, commercial real estate developer, and near-death experience survivor. In August 2020, he suffered a catastrophic subarachnoid brain hemorrhage and clinically died. For eight minutes, he was gone. He encountered Jesus and saw his late sister, Anita. He was sent back with a message that would become both a warning and a mandate:
You're not done yet.
What follows is not a "toxic relationship" story. It is a field record of how malignant narcissistic abuse escalates -- how it hooks through love-bombing, tightens through surveillance and control, and then turns into retaliation: smear campaigns, false narratives, police threats, legal warfare, and the kind of humiliation designed to break a person in public so the abuser can wear the mask of the victim.
Ventura's lens is hard and specific. Drawing on the psychological frameworks of Carl Jung (shadow, projection, individuation), the behavioral clarity of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson (truth vs. malevolence, responsibility vs. chaos), and the clinical work of Dr. Ramani Durvasula (narcissistic abuse cycles, DARVO, and coercive control), NOT DONE YET does what most books will not:
It names the pattern cleanly -- without euphemism.
Inside these pages:
? How trauma bonds form (and why "just leave" ignores neurology)
? The love-bomb ? devalue ? discard cycle -- and why discard is often a control move, not closure
? DARVO: deny, attack, reverse victim and offender -- how the abuser flips the script and recruits institutions
? Why "silence and distance" are often the only language a malignant system respects
? How false narratives are built, laundered through outsiders, and used as weapons
? What prolonged coercive control does to the body (sleep, cognition, stress physiology, panic loops)
? How shame and "male silence" keep victims trapped -- and why men often don't report until they're near collapse
? How discernment and boundaries become survival tools -- not slogans
? How faith operates under pressure: forgiveness without returning to danger, compassion without self-erasure
NOT DONE YET is also a testimony to what happens when fear of death is removed. Once Ventura returned from the other side, the shadow lost its favorite lever. He stopped negotiating with darkness. He chose distance. He chose truth. And he chose to write -- because exposure is protection, and naming the pattern is how other people get out alive.
If you've been gaslit, smeared, threatened with police or courts, or made to doubt your own sanity -- this book is for you.
You are not crazy.
You are in a system.
And systems can be escaped -- one clean decision at a time.
A companion handbook follows in January 2026: Pull Me Close, Punish Me Hard (subtitle direction: Delight in Harm) -- an operating manual focused on the darkest archetypes, including the Dark Triad/Tetrad, D-factor traits, DARVO, coercive control, and escape protocols.
Not dead yet. Not done yet.
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